I share with you the sad news that Chris and I are getting divorced.
Without belaboring the point, GardenPunk(s) in current state is no longer a representation of my life.
Folks have made recommendations such as:
Keep the blog!
You'll still get your hands in the dirt at friend's homes, blog about that!
Blog about volunteering at Soil Born Farms
You can blog about terrible apartment landscaping
You can blog about your (soon-to-be) apartment balcony garden
Put the last nail in the coffin and be done with it (my recommendation)
I think both Chris and I are looking forward to starting over and wish the best for each other. I'm just not sure where GardenPunks GardenPunk fits in anymore.
Nov 22, 2009
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So sorry to hear this Katie. Sending you lots of (((Hugs)))
As with any life change, time will help with the sorting out and after a while things will be different. Give yourself some time, then make a decision. I wish you the very best in life.
wow - i am sorry to hear. sometimes things like this happen and a new path is the way to go. i hope you continue to blog as i enjoy your style and topics. if you find an apartment veranda a little limiting for your gardening itch, you can head up the hill and get your hands dirty up here from time to time.
garry
I cannot think of anything "correct" to say, but I know that you will find the right time and place to write and share about your passions and interests. This can not be an easy time. I hope that needs are met and support is all around.
Oh, Katie, I'm so sad to hear this. I hope this is for the best in the long run although I'm sure it will be painful in the short one.
Regarding the blog, it has represented your life as it has been up to now so I see no reason to kill it. Life changes and evolves and a blog reflects that. I would vote for continuing with the blog, especially since people in apartments need even more help with gardening ideas.
If you don't want to blog about that here, start a new blog with your new life. Please, however, don't abandon blogging unless it no longer adds anything positive to your life.
Oh, Katie, that is so sad. My heart goes out to you and Chris. I'll keep you both in my prayers. Divorce is one of the most difficult things anyone ever has to go through.~~Dee
Katie,
Very sorry to hear about this. My gardening inspiration is my wife. Without her, there would be no Sacramento Vegetable Gardening blog.
Having gone through a divorce once before -- decisions like this are never easy. Minds change. Things happen. In other words, it ain't over until the document receives a final signature.
Good luck Katie.
Bill
Katie, I'm sad for both of you but I hope you can find a way to honor that which was good about your marriage and take it with you into the next chapter of your lives.
Katie, I will share with you what a mentor told me when my first marriage ended after 2 years: life is like a series of doors, when one closes, another one opens, just like chapters in a book. Keep going forward.
I have been married now for 28 years.
Hugs to you.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll miss you if you choose to stop blogging, but I totally understand. Playing in the dirt should provide a bit of centering and solace regardless of whether you tell us about it. Take care.
I'm very sorry to hear this. I hope you emerge from this a stronger and happier person. I wish you both well as you move on to a new phase in your lives.
Many people tend to see divorce as a sign of failure. I see it, instead, as a sign that although the relationship failed, the people involved in it succeeded in escaping it and establishing better lives elsewhere. Good luck with your soon-to-be apartment balcony garden, and I hope that at some point in the future, you'll feel like blogging again - probably not on the GardenPunks blog, and maybe not on the subject of gardening at all, but I'm sure anything you feel like writing will find an interested audience.
You don't have kids so noone loses from the divorce. At least I hope that is the case and that you both see a better future seperate than together. It is wise to know when something is wrong and then to fix it. Best wishes to both of you. I hope you will reorganize your life and come back to blogging because I do sense a passion in your topic and that is what makes a good blogger.
Katie, my heart goes out to you. As you make your new beginning, you'll figure out what you want to write about and if you feel like sharing. When that time comes, we'll all be here.
We care about you and your life! If you want to write about it, you have a ready audience. If you wish to be quiet for awhile, we'll still care. So you're good whatever you do. And I'm sure there's a little garden out there for you somewhere!
Katie, whatever you choose to do with the blog, I want you to know that I have really enjoyed it. I appreciate the gardening advice you have provided to me! Sending positive energy your way. ~Tavia
I'm so sorry to hear your news Katie. I hope you know there are a lot of people who care about you and that we'll be keeping you in our thoughts and prayers. Take care.
I want to thank each and every one of you for your comments. They mean so much to me right now. Hugs, Katie
Hi Katie,
I'm so very sorry to hear that you and Chris have decided to take separate paths. I'm sending lots of positive energy your way as you make this transition.
Robin
my condolences on the divorce, I say pause the blog, figure out your next move, where will you refocus your efforts, and then let any web presence evolve from that. Don't put the cart before the horse.
Katie, I'm so sorry to hear this news. I'm inspired by your writing and gardening and I hope to stay in touch. Things will be tough for a while but your friends (cyber and IRL) will stick with you. Hang in there.
Things always happen for a reason. I never would have met my husband if he and I hadn't taken the paths we did. He's already divorced and we both maintain a friendly relationship with his ex. It's not totally impossible to remain friends afterwards. Just depends on the situation. Keep your heart open, even though it may be hard to do, and you'll 'see' which fork in the path is right for your next step. XO
Katie, I'm sorry to hear this. I don't know you personally, but through some of Carri's anecdotes about your good times doing girly gardening stuff.
My recommendation is to keep writing (even if it is in a private journal and not on a blog). Writing is theraputic and I'll look forward to hearing about the next chapter in your life if and when you decide to go public again. Life is long, and there will always be a seed to plant and a flower to water.
I'll be sending good vibes your way as you move into the next chapter. Whether you keep the blog going (my vote) or start a new one, I hope you keep writing about your experiences. For me, it's times like this when writing really helps me see a situation from all sides. Stay in touch.
Big f*cking sigh Katie. I'm so sorry. It is evident that you have a very strong support system from all of us. Please keep in touch with your friends and let us be that shoulder you lean on if need be.
Your friend,
Adriana
I am sad about what happened. Everything happens for a reason. If that is what you think it for the better, then you have to go for it. Life is too short to be stuck into something you are not happy with.
This is just a bump in the road of life. I see a big happy future for you Katie! You know you are always welcome at our place- and I won't even make you fix our irrigation system! Seriously, as much as it doesn't feel like it- I think you've laughed more in the past week than you have since I met you.
*hugs* Take care of yourselves and the rest will fall into place when you're ready. We'll be waiting with open arms when you reemerge.
Sorry to hear about this - and like many here, been there - done that. There's naught to be said that really fits - or removes pain - or changes things. If anything, it's that you have a group of friends who'll support you as you make your decisions - whatever those decisions are and wherever they take you. And that ultimately is what pulls us all through. I think i join the rest when I say I'll look forward to seeing another you emerge and to following along when you do.
I believe in you and believe that your future is yours for the making. Jump out of airplanes, fly to Africa, live life large. Why? Because life is short.
Start a NEW blog. A blog about you and self-discovery - a blog about your every day life and the way you now see it.
I believe in you - you can do it!
::hugs::
Shawna Coronado
Ah, okay, so that's what's going on with you. Been wondering. Having recently extracted myself from a twenty-year marriage gone terribly, terribly awry, I can tell you that it will get better, and that life is short, and that you deserve to be happy.
To me, divorce felt like jumping out of an airplane for the first time and wondering if the damn chute would even open. With the help of a great therapist and a respected attorney, the chute opened, I'm on the ground, and ready to give up skydiving.
My door's always open if you need to touch base with someone who's been there. Don't worry about the blog, Katie. You're entitled to your privacy, and if the wind has been kicked out of your sails, you may not feel like gardening for awhile, let alone writing passionately about the subject.
My ex-husband used to get angry with me for not mentioning him in my blog. Dude... there was a reason. ;-)
Hugs to you during this tumultuous time. You are both smart to move on when you know the relationship no longer fits and you'll both be the better for it in the long run.
Oh Katie, such sad news! But I'm sure you'll do well, and that plants and gardens will continue to be in your life. Best wishes to both of you.
Katie, what a hard thing. Like all your friends who commented before me, I have all the confidence in the world you'll figure things out. Why? Because you are a strong and amazing person.
Hugs, Susan
Katie,
So sorry to hear this. As hard as it may be to see it now, I'm sure you'll come out the other side stronger and in a better place...and you'll find some way to garden no matter where you end up, I'm sure. Hopefully you'll blog when you get there and I'll look forward to reading what you have to say then too!
Hi Katie,
I'm so sorry to here about you and Chris. Divorce is hard. Been there. I completely understand if you need to shut the doors on Gardenpunks. Sometimes it's best just to close the door on some things and move on.
That being said, keeping your blog could be very healing. Go with your gut.
If you want to contact me to talk about what you're going through please shoot me an email chigiy@earthlink.net
Best of luck.
Oh Katie, I'm so sorry for you both. Divorce sucks eggs, even in the best of circumstances.
I wish you all the best through the hard times and hope you'll surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
Take care of yourself. If you decide to start another blog, another time. Somehow let us know.
Hello Katie,
This is an incredible drag. Even though we only know you through blogging, we consider you our friend and we are deeply saddened to hear you are going through this.
Like CeeCee said, when you get back into blogging, give us a holler. Take care.
Cheers,
Kelly and Meg
(future house farm)
Katie - so sorry to hear about this belatedly. Here's hoping this closing door of your life leads to an opening window where you'll find happiness.
((((hugs))))
Och, damn and keech, I'm sorry for your upset and wish you loving kindness and strength as you both move through what you are moving through. I have enjoyed visiting your garden world and appreciate all you have shared. Brave of you to let your blogging friends know what's going on. Much empathy flowing your way.
Katie,
I'm so sorry to read that news. I actually gasped and said, "Oh no!" My cousin recently went through a divorce and decided to redesign her entire life. She quit her job, sold everything, and "ran away" to yoga school. Thousands and thousands of miles later, she's writing a book about her experiences and she has a new partner with whom she plans to share her life.
I want to make sure I don't lose touch with you, but if you want to keep your life private for a while I can understand that. I hope you continue blogging and if you start doing so elsewhere, I hope you'll share that with us here so we can follow you!
Heather
Goodbye is often painful specially if there is no turning back, but life must go on(I know this is not as easy when doing it). If you feel that ending this blog is the best for this time, I think we your readers will understand, and when the time comes the you're ready to come out again, then, we'll still be here.
Yikes. Just saw this. It is jarring for me to read because, honestly, we're about the same age. Sometimes I think about what a divorce would mean and I can't imagine it. All of the untangling.
Take good care of yourself. As everyone else said, we'll all be looking forward to seeing what you do and where you go next.
Best wishes.
I'm the most belated of posters, Katie, but wanted to add my support and encouragement across the miles. Been there, did that years ago, we survived as friends and are both happily remarried It can be tough going but it will work out. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts, as are your many friends around the blogosphere.
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